Tag: fatphobia
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Trauma Informed Care
I have written and re-written this post many times. It is that difficult to write about this topic. Whatever I wrote, I felt I could write so much more. There are so many nuances to this conversation. There are so many areas of trauma that could be addressed. This writing cannot and will not include…
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Who would you (rather) be…?
We are all swimming in the culture that tries extremely hard, and mostly succeeds, to convince us that we must meet certain standards to be acceptable. These can be performance standards, appearance norms, social standing, economic status, IQ levels and so many more. If we internalize these cultural messages, we spend a lot of time…
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Holidays and Boundaries
Wintertime with all the family holidays and other social gatherings is very likely to increase our exposure to the diet-talk, fat phobic comments and even personal attacks, if you happen to be the “fat” one. Of course, all of this comes wrapped up in the sickly cheerful paper of “concern for your health”. Sometimes we…
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”But you are not fat…”
I identify myself as fat. Not chubby, not round, not just a “bigger” girl. I use the word “fat” like any other descriptor – I am also blonde, green-eyed, and very fair skinned. However, I still run into trouble when I dare to use this F-word in public. There is always a well-meaning friend, colleague…
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“Maybe it hurts, because you are fat?”
This is literally the question my doctor has recently posed, after hearing my pain complaint. The advice to lose weight and the referral to a dietician immediately followed. In the past I would have felt ashamed and utterly convinced that the doctor, though clearly a fatphobe, was correct. These days I manage to remain calm…
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